How To Take Control Of Your Life
Monday, June 14th 2010 @ 10:26 PM
There are two excuses that people tend to use when explaining why they don’t have the life that they would like to have. One is that there past environment was not conducive to creating an abundant life and the second is that there current situation does not permit going after the life of their dreams. Their past environment has led to their current situation and that now keeps them in the role that they have become accustomed to.
It has become an excuse for everything good that they have not done or anything bad that they continue to do. “How can I be expected to be successful when I have such an unsupportive husband?” “My job doesn’t give me the motivation to do my best.” “How can I ever become financially secure, with all the bills that I have to pay?” “How could I succeed with the childhood I had?” This frame of mind allows people to give away control of their lives and gives external circumstances, people or events the power to determine their internal state. It presupposes that your happiness is dependent on external stimuli or attached to some outcome. People with this belief are prone to mood swings, and are not in control of their emotional or mental state, states such as happiness, sadness, anger, depression, guilt, fear, and so on.
When you buy into this belief you become a victim. Your life is at the mercy of external factors, factors other than yourself. You are a pawn in the game of life, with little or no control over the outcomes that you achieve or the quality of your life. You are at the mercy of your environment.
There is a very easy way to break free of this externally dependent view of life, and that is to be at cause in…the “cause and effect “formula. That is that you must accept that you are responsible for everything in your life, good or bad, without guilt or punishment. Whether it makes sense to you or not, you must take responsibility. For people who are sick or have lived through abuse or tragic circumstances, this is less than easy to do. Imagine believing that you caused the tragic events of your life. At first it sounds almost hurtful. The commonly held “model of the world” the one that we originally bought into, tells us that bad things happen to us, rather than we caused or created them, putting us firmly in the role of victim. A common response from individuals is “If you think that I wanted this to happen to me then you are sadly mistaken.” The sad thing is that they are resigning themselves to being a victim. Of course you didn’t want the bad things to happen; you didn’t intentionally draw them to you. Unfortunately, it doesn’t matter if you wanted it or not, it’s where your focus is that counts…”as go your thoughts, so go you.” You must remember this is not about assigning blame or taking blame. This is about getting control and in order to have control you must be at cause in the “cause and effect” formula. This is the strength position, the position of ultimate power, liberation and influence. If you can cause it…you can un-cause it.
It’s true that we are not in control of everything that happens, but we must act “as if” we are. There are a billion things in the Universe that we do not control, but one thing that we are most definitely in control of, is our mind. Once you realize this and learn to leverage that control, it’s all you need…for if you are in control of your mind and your thoughts…you are in control of your life.
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